I am more than happy to share if it can help gain some insight and perspective. I am also keeping my heart more open in real life and online as I need to not be ashamed of my past, and connect with people meaningfully.
As much as this has caused so so much damage, I am not a victim of it now. If anything, you find the strength and resilience from what you have gone through.
Yes, it is staggering what a parent can do. The magnitude of the damage caused by my mother to every single family member and many others is truly unbelievable. At least with my family members, we all shared the truth and started the healing process together.
Anyways, the moral of the story is that you be the best parent you can be. And then be even better than that some more. Learn self-reliance as much as possible and keep co-parenting civil. I think you're on a good path already and you'll get stronger.
I told myself that I will never repeat the mistakes of both my parents. And I am doing it. Trauma and hurt doesn't have to keep on going for generations. I made the conscious break and it's awesome.
