I second what J9 said. I attacked my sitch (eventually) with the main thing of doing only what would yield the best outcome and life for my daughter. That's all that mattered. My daughter was also a young one at 6 months old when this all happened and OW has been her stepmother ever since.
My daughter has had to live her whole life this way. So I realized she needed to be comfortable with all the key players in her life. My ex is a spoiled brat narc too. I call him out when needed, and only for my daughter's sake.
Act in the best interest of your S.
Oh, and I thought you were going to start focusing more on your stuff rather than her personality disorder? Your post yesterday sure did outline her personality disorder.....
