Advice on my Scenario Pt. 18 - Nunquam Iterum

[OrangeK]

Joseph.

I had considered answering "Yes" to the question about the room I am living in.
I chose not to for 2 reasons.

1.) its the only other bedroom in the house, so its obvious that is the room S3 and I would be in. Shes asking obvious questions just to keep in touch. (same thing with how she had asked for directions to meet up with my parents, and claimed to have "Driving anxiety" when she wasnt even the one driving, and had her GPS. No need to contact me. These are just ways of seeing if I will respond)

2.) She has been very secretive and hiding the fact that she sleeps at OM's with S3, she is still denying this often.

I thought about saying "Yes" but then i realized it isnt directly about S3's CARE.
She doesnt need to know details of my living situation.
She chose not to be in my life, if she wants to "Guess" at where i am living as she puts it, she can guess all she would like.

I am going for cause and effect here, if she wants me to be open and candid about my living situation and where and with whom i spend time with S3, she will need to make the first steps in opening that line of honest and transparent communication.

In the last 2 days she has tried to lay down rules to me about how I date, what I do when with S3, tries to dictate terms of the Divorce to me and expects to have unfettered access to all the types of information she is deliberately withholding from me.

It needs to be established that I am not going to bow to her every demand, and if we are going to establish a quality co parenting relationship, it will be based on a give and take relationship, and i DONT mean she gives me crap, and i take it.

She seems to think the TRO gives her authority over any and all aspects of our parenting situation,
but yet she has fallen behind on Daycare payments 2 separate occasions now, this most recent time she missed 3 payments!! That is $735 in missing tuition payments. She couldn't be bothered to bring S3 to a Dr appointment she had 2 months to get done, she shirks S3 off on her parents half the time she has him.
I have this all documented and ready for court.


Joseph, I feel like her getting answers to non-essential questions like this is a matter of mutual respect, respect she will need to earn.
I gave her respect and trust by benefit of the doubt when i claimed my love for her, and married her.
She destroyed my trust and respect, and has a LONNNNGGG road to go to earn a modicum of either back.

If she can act like an adult for some time, perhaps i will become more open and communicative. Until such time however, as neither message she sent me was urgent or directly about S3's care, i dont see the need to give her the satisfaction of knowing i responded.