Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

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It has only been this way for about a month or less. We have separate homes. . She has anxiety around me and our daughter. Last night we were texting and she said her friend is how she was a year ago uncontrollable anxiety desperate for her husband to change. Desperate not to leave him. W said her anxiety around daughter is not something that she can work on. I disagree and think she will have to get Ic for her anxiety eventually. She mentioned i have changed so much to her friend and friend does not think her husband will change.

So yea maybe we are on the path to reconnecting. But there has been no sexual contact in over a year. No intimacy while we both have had multiple other partners. She is so secretive about her phone and I have followed suit. I think I am going to change that - phone and cut off contact with other women. It takes one to tango and change right? We have had one phone conversation. So we still have a long way to go. Defninitely no where near a good relationship, yet. I have a little more hope but I am nervous that she will not work on herself and after all this I will end up sad as he*l that she will not do the work. Maybe she will. I hope she will.

I have an appointment 7pm next fri with my therapist which is near w house. I told her that and said she had asked about getting a drink and she said she likes to talk after d goes to bed. So I said if you want that drink and a movie let me know you pick the movie i will bring the bottle. Definitely pursuit and should not have said it. Oh well...