KML- I started Al-anon about a year ago. My problem is that I also see the good in him. He doesnt drink everyday but the binges he does quarterly are not fun. I had a hard time figuring out whether he was actually an alcoholic or not, because he doesnt drink every day or even every month. Sometimes I felt that maybe I was being the crazy one and imagining my life is like this because of the alcohol. I did have lots of alcoholism in my family, grandparents and uncles.
Financially I am independent. I bought my house 10 years ago. I make enough to support myself and kids.
I am looking to go to counseling, I just need to figure out how to find a good one We did go to one couples counseling session last year but then he was too busy with work to go back. I should have went by myself, but didnt.
Arsh18- It felt good to be close to him, but you confirmed my thoughts, bad idea. Thats one of the areas we actually spoke with the counselor that we actually work well in.
Ovrrnbw- No, he didnt say he expects sex. He just asked if I had wanted to. I did at the time. Ive decided Im going to just meet him somewhere or have somewhere to be next time we meet for him to get our S.
About a year ago, I told him I couldnt handle his drinking and MIA anymore. He needed to stop the ridiculousness or we would end the relationship. So he did well for about 8 months and then had an incident in Feb. He went to watch a game with friends and ended up driving when he shouldnt have. Didnt get a DUI or anything but should have. He decided then he was done drinking. Did good until April and decided he could handle drinking bc he is a man. Since April, I think he realized he needs to leave to have a free life without my complaints etc.
Essentially his buddies and alcohol is the OW. He doesnt drink like that at home. Only with his buddies, if that makes sense.
Thank you everyone for the responses. My head is feeling clearer. I have a hard time deciphering normal vs not normal.
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