Sorry you are here Melisa, he seems completely unstable and yes he definitely has issues and like you say seems to be wanting to create excuses to leave.
Originally Posted By: MMelisa

He is still wanting to have sex when he picks up and drops off child. I think I should probably say no next time?

Gosh that is an absolute NO to me, child drop off and pick up does not come with added privileges nor can he take it for granted.
To start off you may need to set some boundaries, I am basically in boundaries kindergarten myself, read up that thread it is quite helpful.