Not sure if this matters but he has been very verbally and emotionally abusive, binge drinks with friends and during the binge goes MIA (every 3-6 months). He had a drinking incident in Feb and decided he wasnt going to drink anymore. In April he decided to start drinking again and it has been hell since.
Honey he's an abusive alcoholic - what more do you need to know?
Mind you, people can change - maybe if he went to AA and had a year sober and was willing to go to relationship counseling - MAYBE then it could be worth taking him back. But nothing you've told us about him so far indicates that he's anywhere close to doing that.
You need to go to Alanon, make a financial plan for your life (if he's an alcoholic you may not be able to count on his financial assistance all the time so get yourself into a financial position where you can be stable even if the money from him is irregular). And get some individual counseling to figure out why you tolerated this so far - was there alcoholism or abuse in your family?
And if he tries to come back, MAKE HIM DO THE WORK FIRST.
You're young - focus on providing a stable happy home for your children and getting healthy yourself. You didn't break him and you can't fix him, he needs to do that himself.
