Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

[hongaku]

Did, you WANT her to talk about herself to you. Validate and act interested in what she is saying. You need to let go of expectations and covert contracts. Women tend to talk more than men in general and she is sharing with you her excitement. She does not have to talk to you at all.

I am sorry, but you wanting her to ask about you and such at this point in time is being needy and a bit selfish. Very NGS-ish if I am being frank.

You can say something like good to se you when you greet her, there is nothing wrong with that. But you should be focusing on HER when you talk to her, not yourself, and not hoping she wants to talk about you right now. Make the most of the opportunities you get to re-establish an emotional connection and friendship. Again, you want her to excitedly talk to you about HER life. Not unconditionally, of course. For example, you need to have clear boundaries of respect for yourself and your own masculinity and if she were to try and tell you about another man she is interested in or anything like that, assert yourself and make clear that you are not interested in hearing about such things. But generally, you want to be there for her to talk to and to think of you again as someone she WANTS to talk to about her life. You just need to be an active listener, show empathy, validation and agreement when you get chances to talk with her. Forget about yourself for the time being (in terms of interactions with her; obviously continue to focus on yourself with GAL and such), forget about the MR for the time being and just focus on re-connecting. Keep following the 37 rules and keep DBing!