Why do I feel like this is bad advice? I just feel like it is more drama for you kiddos? All over the bedroom? I know, she cheated. It's horrid. But at this point putting the kids through anymore is more horrid in my opinion.
Have you thought of just completely stop talking to her? Like zilch, nada, nothing? Completely ignore? She would probably wonder what you are up to. Playing who loved the furniture last and locking doors seems very odd at this point. It's not helping with the environment of the kiddos.
If you don't want the marriage to work then think of your endgame.
