Do you think she is healed from what happened 13 years ago?
This is a very valid point that I think about often. And I agree with you, that would be very hard to forgive and forget, as they say. I find myself allowing that to be the justification behind whether she has sex with another man and doesn't care how it affects me. So to answer your question, no. And with all that is happening I think it brings those feelings back even stronger.
