Can I really do this #4

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Thank Steve.
I am working on the validation more and more and definitely not perfect. I did tell her a few times that "I was sorry she felt that way" and she later said that she hates that phrase. That it seems demeaning to her and she would appreciate me not using that so I am trying to find some different validation phrases.

Alimony shouldn't be a question as it is specifically excluded in the prenup. Only child support and we have pretty much agreed on that part. As far as affording it. I don't know. I mentioned before that I don't want to "foot" the bill to move her up and then have her bail a month or so later. I am not trying to do this as a way to save our MR. IF it opened the possibility of getting all of us to a different city, starting over as a family and working on things, I would consider it. Otherwise, I would be looking at the opportunity for the future for my kids and myself and W would have to foot her own bill. NOT trying to hold that over her head, but I won't be a doormat and be used either.