AS is dead on here. And this reminds me alot of my sitch from BD (12/23) through February.

W said many of the same things. As AS said, the fact that she is verbalizing her contradictory thoughts IS good. My W did that too, and fairly early on. However, she would usually revert back to her stance of repulsion, wanting out, feeling trapped shortly after. It is like they are multi-personality.

AS is correct, you can't guilt her back. The fact she is expressing some doubts means she has a battle going on inside. Part of her wants out. Part of her doesn't want to lose what she has. Part of her wants to recapture sexual and romantic passion (just not with you right now). Part of her wants to keep her family together.

My advice 40 is to GAL like a madman. Keep on 180ing on things that go you here. Detach. Detach. Detach. (In my sitch things didn't get better until I let her go.) Go on the vacation and be lovingly detached from her. Bury yourself into your kids.

Good luck, keep us updated.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018