Ex: W: You are putting words into my mouth. You: I am sorry you feel that I am doing that, however, I was just trying to discuss an issue with you.
Also ignore the "whatever". It is passive-aggressive and when you react it gives her exactly what she wants. It is a verbal eye-roll. Ignore it, and likely she'll quit saying it.
I would stop bringing up her getting a job. That is for her to decide, not you. Your decision is whether or not to keep supporting her financially. She is the WAW. Likely you'd have to pay alimony for a while in a D but you don't have to do that until court-ordered to.
On the move. Either you can afford it or you can't. She doesn't bring in income. So you will need to decide if you can relocate or not. From someone that just moved, it is expensive, no question about it. If you can afford it and want to, then do it. You are not currently obligated to support a second home for her. If you can't even if you stay together, then don't consider it.
Above all, DO NOT MAKE THIS MOVE AS A MEANS TO TRY TO GET HER TO STAY IN THE MR! That will backfire.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
