MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART X

[ItHurts]

Thanks Blu! Yes to be honest that's the main reason I even come back here to update...to help others who had the bomb drop recently...those months after are just desperate, hopeless, and incredibly painful. I hope that those suffering now read my thread here all the way back to my very first post. Hope is not lost even though there seems to be no doubt in your head that it is in the weeks after a bomb drop. Time changes things...it did for me and it WILL for the newbies.

But yes I come back here not necessarily for advice on saving my marriage because my marriage is long dead and buried. WAW and I need to start from scratch. I come here to help the newbies see that no matter how hopeless things seem...time works to fix all!!! It does it does it does!
Yes I feel as though i am handling this the best way right now. The more time I spend with her, the more she's going to miss me and want me around. So far I've been proven right since she keeps coming back over and over again. That's not for no reason. Where it leads? Who knows. But j am in a place of strength where I am not reliant on the outcome. It's no different than if WAW was a new woman...if it didn't work out then I just move on to someone else. That's how I'm treating WAW, she's no different now than any other woman I would have some interest in. And any other woman I was seeing that I was interested in I would take my time with. If it was a woman I just wanted a sexual fling with then no, I'd be aggressive and go for it. But a meaningful relationship never has and never will be build upon a sexual encounter or two. There has to be more than that and for WAW and I, solidifying our friendship again had to come first. So in that regard things are going just fine. If her romantic emotions for me awaken again because of the strengthening friendship then that's great, if not that's fine too. The point is you can't build a strong house on weak foundation. Friendship is the foundation and sex is the wood and paint. I'm not taking advice that suggests I build the house on a swampy foundation only to watch it collapse again. And yes, LOL, this approach most definitely doesn't make me gay. LOL!