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[Jim1234]

Hey Jim - There is also some stuff out there that talks about the fantasy of your ex as well. That could be beneficial also.

I'll look them up. Thanks!

Jim, now I see your update. Interesting that your wife has family overseas. Was she born overseas? You may not want to share and it may not matter but I wonder if where she comes from has any impact on how she handles problems and whether it made any difference in her decision to file for divorce. I hope you will continue to make it through this and find someone new if your wife doesn't come around. This stage of waiting and being alone isn't fun in any way.

She's from England, so there isn't the same cultural difference as in your sitch.

In many ways this time [censored], but I've tried to make the most of it. I go out a lot more, with friends and with dates, to ballgames, movies, dinners, lunches, concerts..... I've started playing competitive volleyball again, a lot more golf, going to museums, travelling.... it's not all bad.