Can I really do this #4

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Another night of nothingness.
I will quickly retract that as when I got home, D was laughing while she had a break from her room (grounded for 2 weeks due to huge disrespectful incident on Sunday. W and D (I believe W didn't want to hear our conversation) were a little "confused" as to the ruled. Old school grounding. No electronics, no tv, no communication through mom's phone and she is in her room with the door open all day for 2 weeks outside of eating, chores and of course shower/bathroom time. I had to be the bad guy again and was fine with that as of course "she hates me now" totally expected as a teenager and not my job for her to like me, but to give her values, morals, responsibility and show her consequences to her actions. When I went upstairs and re-explained what her mom and I agreed to, she was shocked! A couple of hours later, I was so impressed that she was taking the time to re-arrange furniture in her room and re-organize her shelves and closet. She was, of course, baiting her younger brother to get in and "help" which meant to distract and play with him. I LOVE when she has not electronics since she is much more personable and fun loving instead of tied up in the social media life. So only day 1 and she loves (and I love this about her) that she is not going to give in and "let" me win (not about me winning at all, just guiding her hopefully the best way I can to be the best person she can be). So 24 hours hours in and she is happier, more pleasant to everyone (including the one she presently hates) Zero communication with friends. I find this old school punishment to be more impactful. I loved my father, but he did use corporal punishment in our time. I look back and do not think it was total abuse. Also, my W and I made a huge agreement when we had kids that we would never strike or beat our children. Outside of slapping their hand away from a not iron, electrical outlet, or reaching for the oven or stove when necessary when they were too young to know, that is all. I know that was day 1 of 14 so it will be a rollercoaster along the way. S is so sweet that he want to interact with his big Sis and I had to let him know that his D was being punished for her actions and he needed to leave him along. I won't lie. There was about 45 minutes I heard the laughing and playing together so I took the time to let them enjoy each other prior to interrupting it and making sure everyone was on the same page while ensuring my S knew he did absolutely nothing wrong.

As far as MR. W was a little pissy yesterday due to health and exhaustion issues. I would love some HUGE insight from all of you as to why she does the following:

1. Why hasn't she left?
2. Why does she still sleep in the MBR?
3. With #2 in mind, why does she just sleep next to me in just her bra and panties. She knows I am attracted to her that way (and all others) and it is either a tease to keep me on or a stab showing what I cant have any more. (not trying to turn this into a porno as nothing has happened in 10 months, but really? Is it just torture or her just making sure since she knows I know she is gorgeous, love her and desire her that she is tempting me to keep me in.
4. Lots happening in the next 2 weeks that will require decisions.
5. Least of which is the fun trip I won and am going to ask er tonight her decision if we can take advantage of it, get away for 2 days, and not pressure to R, but relax and enjoy a few days.


I would love everyone's response on these. Sandi, Steve, AS, Etc.

As of this moment today, she has made no effort to move this forward. Brief, pleasant interaction this morning as she got up a little later 6am so I hope she got some rest. I already had 6 miles in by then. This GAL thing is good. And I look really good if I do say so myself.

She is still struggling with the health issues greatly. I asked, since she got up so early yesterday (4am) If she was tired and going to be able to sleep. Her response was that she could nap for 5 hours a day and still sleep soundly at night. Doesn't seem to be that she is looking for a job. Ideas on how to handle this are greatly appreciated as well. Concerns are :
1- Quality of life for W and kids when she moves out due to the inability to live within her then be means.
2- Do I ask or insist that she immediately find a job so she can see that most employer's frown on a 5 hour nap a day!

Not a bad, but not a great morning so far.
Good Day to all and I look forward to the great insight and any 2x4's coming my way...