It's great that you are talking, but it seems like you are already putting expectations on this meeting. That seems unhealthy at this early stage. Just get together with her, without expectations, and listen to her. It could be that she is looking to R, but maybe not. It only causes problems to go in expecting something. Slow down and remember that you dont need her, that you are complete as is. If she wants to share time with you, great. But you are in control.
^^^100% agree^^^
Did, my thoughts when reading your posts were "why does he think a meeting to have a glass of wine means she wants to recon?" For all you know she wants to work out some D details. Don't go in with plans of making a pass at her! This is simply a fact-finding mission. Go, listen, validate, do nothing else. Whatever she says, whether it's interest in recon or D details or whatever, remember you don't have to negotiate or resolve anything right there. She's going in knowing her agenda, you are going in blind. So whatever it is, ESPECIALLY if it's recon talk, tell her you need time to think about it.
