Are you seeing an counselor? Have you discussed marriage counseling with your wife? If so, what did she say?
Why couldn't she text you to pick her up?
I have been seeing a counselor for 6 weeks and his advice is a lot different than here. More about trying my best to stay focused on her and positive. But I think that is not the right approach.
I was in Wisconsin for work and we live in Ohio.
Most counselors are classically trained in MC. They will focus on reconnecting. Their methods are pursuit and pressure.
I agree with him on staying positive. Loving detachment is being pleasant, pleased, upbeat in your W's presence. But not "focused" on her. That is where is classic MC training is coming in.
Reconnecting is great advice for couples where both spouses want to work on the MR. But when one is a WAS, then reconnection attempts are counter-productive.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
