V, so you're saying all cheaters are abusers. I agree there are no excuses for weak moral character although there are precipitating factors or opportunities that may bring out such behavior whereas the rest of the time it's repressed or not observable. I haven't really thought of cheating as abuse until reading your threads on this forum but it makes sense.
Arsh, that sounds right to say your husband bottled up resentment for a long time and then it all came spilling out after BD.
