Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

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W and I talked for 10 min on the phone tonight. Just about daughter and life in general. First time since separation.

She again asked to get a drink once my work schedule calms down. I mentioned to her 7/21 date when there is parent night out at our local YMCA and they watch the kids.

Question on my mind for anyone who knows anyone who has R after a long separation or DB... how do you make a move, like sexually or kiss or whatever. We are supposed to not pursue but once in the situation is it ok to make the first move? She always liked me taking the lead sexually and initiating.

I think that if we get to that point the sexual chemistry and attraction may take over. Instead of romantic hugs and I miss you's where it's all in the mind. I dont think either of us have been with a partner in quite a long time.

Im kind of embarrassed to still be open to taking her back. Everyone that knows me is like NOOOO... I guess have to slow play it and we have to earn each others trust back. I should have let her move out and get her own place a year ago. Since she has been in her own place and out of her parents she seems a lot better. She says a lot of the anxiety was concern for daughter in bad living situation.

I have hoped to be getting to this position and now Im unsure... Patience... DB / LRT when she starts coming to you reading it over and over.