MTB, you have been a role model for me. I look to your posts to see what I SHOULD be doing. I have learned a lot from you, even as we have gone down this road at the same time.
Thankfuly, i think I am finally catching up to you Bud.
Thanks. Sometimes I don't even know if what I'm doing is the right thing, but I know I'm doing much better than a few months ago. As much as this $ucks, I guess the silver lining is that someone can learn something from my sitch. I wish my W was more "normal" (for lack of a better term) so there could be a chance of things working out, but she's got some huge issues to deal with that I can do nothing about. Kust gonna keep focusing on me and the kids and do my best to give us the best possible life we can have after we make it through all this...
And thank you to all of you for your support during this. I'm a big boy and can deal with what I've been dealt, but I really feel bad for the kids. I know they struggle more than they show. I appreciate all the comments about me being a good dad. I do my best, but still feel like I can't do enough for them sometimes...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Can I tell you that you are a loving caring dad. There have been plenty on this board. And you are up there with the best.
Your kids need one great loving stable parent and that's you. In the time I have been on the board (And lurking) I have seen crazy bat stir crazy moms. Those who have addictions, gone into prostitution, have abandoned their kids, abused them, allowed family and OM to abuse. Throughout those sitches the dad has been rock solid, been mom and dad. It is amazing how much dads love their kids and end up with pride, happy lives and enormous loving R.
It's wonderful to me.......
And you deserve every accolade that you get.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Oh well... I deactivated my Twitter account. I had already blocked her from any other social media, I just forgot about Twitter because I quit using it...
I seriously wish more LBS's would follow your example! WELL DONE! It's pointless to get into a pissing match over this stuff, so much better to just sever the links. And guess what message you sent to her by doing that- "I DON'T CARE" which is EXACTLY the message you SHOULD be sending.
Oh well... I deactivated my Twitter account. I had already blocked her from any other social media, I just forgot about Twitter because I quit using it...
I seriously wish more LBS's would follow your example! WELL DONE! It's pointless to get into a pissing match over this stuff, so much better to just sever the links. And guess what message you sent to her by doing that- "I DON'T CARE" which is EXACTLY the message you SHOULD be sending.
One of the best decisions I've ever made. Makes detachment so much easier. I don't care to see or know what she is up to. That's her business. I've got my life to live...
Getting ready to take the kids out to GAL. Local theater has a dollar movie on Tuesday mornings. Paddington 2, an older kids movie, but it's hard to beat a buck. Then I think we will have a picnic by the lighthouse, except our lighthouse will be the park...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
S15 is home watching the younger kids. Working today doing random odd jobs for my old boss who is retired. Did some mowing and weed eating. He decided it was too hot to work anymore at noon, so he decided we should go to the local tavern for a few beers and lunch. It is steak day, so we enjoyed some ribeyes and beers. Got to listen to him and some other Vietnam vets tells stories and give each other a hard time. Pretty entertaining. S8 has a ballgame this evening and D9 wants me to help her make spaghetti for dinner tonight, so the rest of the day is already planned. Trying to enjoy myself as much as possible the next couple of days because my next GAL adventure is having a wisdom tooth removed Friday morning. Really looking forward to that...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
mtb- Wisdom teeth-that will only help with your million dollar [url=smilehttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/images/icons/default/laugh.gif-][url=smilehttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/images/icons/default/laugh.gif-][url=smilehttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/images/icons/default/laugh.gif-]smilehttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/images/icons/default/laugh.gif-[/url][/url][/url] the one you will be sportin when all the smoke has cleared!! Blessings!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
Also forgot to mention something I have found kind of humorous. D9 has spent the past couple of days just staring at her finger and toenails smiling after we went and got them painted. It was just what she needed. She is pretty proud of them. Lol...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
