Hoosjim's 16th. Looks like we're piecing, folks.

[hoosjim]

hey, hoosjim... thank you for checking in... it's important that DBers hear about what comes next after a couple gets to the point where they want to work on the M... i think it's good that you make the appt with the MC... and maybe W can come to see that you think it's important in order to maintain and even grow, at least for the time-being... not on a weekly basis--but maybe every 4 weeks for the next couple of months, and then maybe every 6 weeks... and then maybe on an as-needed basis... W should be agreeable to it simply because it is important to you... because things are going well, what harm can checking in periodically with the MC do?

Hi artista. Thanks for stopping by and for the encouragement and the kind words.

Helping others in similar sitches is something i most definitely want to do... paying it forward, i guess... so i imagine i will continue coming by from time to time. Of course, not sure how to balance that with the new "open and trusting marriage." Still not entirely sure how the W would take or react to a full a revelation of all that i have posted here-- which is pretty much EVERYTHING and then some. Not even sure my MC knows everything that i have revealed on these boards. So, even as i would love my W to be able to contribute here as have you and Sandi, not sure how that would ever happen. I would love, of course, for us to be able to do something together to help distressed couples by leveraging the wisdom gleaned from our own experience and sitch, but even that comes with hurdles-- not sure either of us would necesarily want to "out" ourselves completely as to what transpired (in my case because i don't want any hard feelings towards my W from friends/family, and in my W's case because, well, similar reasons.)

Hopefully God will reveal something to us... some way to contribute and make a difference.

Thanks again!