Hoosjim's 16th. Looks like we're piecing, folks.

[hoosjim]

Quick check-in (I feel like I'm in AA sometimes ).

Just back from a long (10-day) vacation. One day at college orientation for S2, 5 days with my family at the lake, 4 days with just our little core family at the beach. Was a really, really fun and good vacay, prolly our best family vacay maybe ever. We all got along, kids were minimal trouble, S2 with tourettes managed his symptoms and didn't let them become too disruptive. W and i were warm and flirty and snuggly with each other even around the boys (which they think is "weird" and keep telling us so, but, oh well... we should've been a better example when they were younger.) At restaurant two nights ago W sat really close to me and draped one of her legs over my lap and kept ahold of my arm for most of the non-eating part of the meal, and S1 couldn't help his eyes keep drifting over and rolling his eyes, lol. Only "down side" was that there wasn't alot of room for, ummm, "romance", as we shared one hotel room most of the trip (have to see about changing that in the future.)

Things are still good with us, no hitches, we barely ever fight or even disagree, though we have gotten some practice with the latter in discussing our future living plans, as we each have somewhat different ideas as to exactly where we want to live, but we are both more flexible and cooperative in discussing the possibilities than we ever have been. The only potentially worrisome thing, to me, seems to be that we have gotten past the "honeymoon" period where we were all over each other all the time. It is really going to require being deliberate and taking the time to intentionally grow the relationship and make time to romance-- it doesn't just happen by itself. And that is probably my biggest fear, that complacency sets in and that we ultimately fall back into old patterns. One thing i have noticed, for instance, is that she has stopped going to the gym with me, or even at all, after coming along with me almost every time for the first few weeks.

We have not seen or talked to MC/IC in prolly 4 weeks, now. Thinking we should check in but W is like "what is there to talk to her about? Is anything wrong?" To which i am forced to admit "No, nothing is wrong." I do feel like MC's guidance could be invaluable in keeping us on track, however, so i am going to tell W that i am going to schedule a session, so let me know her (W's) availability.

anyhoo, that's it for now. S2 goes off to school in five weeks and S1 the week after that and then we're empty nesters!