Advice for newcomer pre- bomb drop.

[Bern19]

last few days have been relatively uneventful. She's been nice and is seemingly trying to limit her screen time when i'm around. I think she knows it makes me uncomfortable watching her choose to communicate with anyone that is willing on that device while being able to ignore those that are right there in front of her.

This weekend I knocked out several more projects around the house, two of which were things the wife has been wanting done for a while. Can't remember the last time she actually showed appreciation for something I had done, but I could tell she was impressed. Saturday night when i went to bed, she asked if I had taken a shower. I told her I was too tired and would do it in the morning before church. She said wanted to "thank me" for the all the hard work I had done but she needed a shower too and could I wait till after we both showered in the morning. I told her that she didn't have to do that, it was all stuff that needed done and I wasn't expecting a reward.

Sunday morning came, I showered first, and instead of waiting in the bedroom for her to finish her shower, I got ready quickly and went out to start working on breakfast for the kids. I basically avoided any chance of being alone with her all day. She went to bed first and I waited about 45 mins to go in, she was still awake and on her phone. I just got in bed and layed there. She definitely was expecting me to initiate, I didn't and just fell asleep. I can tell you it felt pretty good to be the one in control for once. Not that i'm playing a game here, but knowing that she can't manipulate me at will, feels pretty good.

Gonna work on GALing full speed this week. I think i might have her attention, so it's time to just keep on track and let her see what she will be missing.