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[jaylove]

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I could really use some coaching about going dark - which as my W has filed for D seems to be the way to go (based on what I have read on this forum so far) W is contacting me about issues to do with our children, stuff like asking me to bring them to her in her psychiatric hospital for visits.
How should I proceed please?
Thanks

What do you want to do?

How old are your children?

My children with my current W are 10 and 8 plus 19 and 17 from my deceased first wife.
Re what I want to do- my wife has refused to countenance couple therapy in the past year - saying she wants to get herself fixed up though therapy first before starting couple therapy. I hate the idea of D full stop and having had many years of great times, as well as our fair share of problems too, for me D seems to be such a drastic measure, I really hoped we could try and resolve our problems through therapy
So I would do anything to keep our family together. I realise that I cannot change my W only myself.