Wife is not who I married...Pls Help Pt 4

[LoneWlf]

I have done my best to this point to let W go and detach. At this point I think I feel more pity than anything for my W. I am sad that she is not herself- that she is not happy. I am aware that she has chosen this path and that she must venture on this journey alone.
mtb - thank you for your support-If you were to ask me that this is who my W is- I would never think my W would turn into this type of person. I'm not a betting man but I would have bet my life savings that I married a kind compassionate and caring woman. This person that she is now- I do not know and it is very unattractive.

What we see in the WAS is unrest from within, it is confusion and instability that probably manifests itself in some form of feeling extremely low.
Arshi- Thank you for your kind words- With W feeling so low - I feel as if I want to fix her. We did not a have a perfect M. On the other hand my feeling is that what we had was very repairable because of no beating no cheating or abuse. At this point I hope that W becomes well for her R with S. I am loosing my attraction to her. i know this may all change but that is my feeling now.

She is herself. She just isn't who you or S want her to be

V -as always your words of wisdom hit home. Plentiful thanks!I now fee like she is someone, that on the outside resembles an old beat up version of my W. On the inside I'm not sure who this person is? what are her motives -her actions and thoughts?( i know mind reading) I would never expect that from my W. Anyways she is on this journey to walk and figure out alone until she finds what she needs. I will let her go!

Helena- you have given me some valuable motherly input -thanks!
Does W come to sons baseball games? Just curious.
while W was still living at home-S had asked W to not be present at his band concerts and baseball games. W responded that she will respect his wishes and not go. I was there to support S but did not say anything. For now I'm getting out of the way. For me I would still go to his games even I I had to watch from a distance just to stay connected.

For all of your insightful information, for all your support and kindness. I am truly thankful. Blessings!