I can safely say my wife is also fractured; The fracture is huge. She displays opposing personalities. On the one hand chatting away like old times and on the other having a desire to escape the life she has. Marvin perfectly describes the cycling between them. Its like watching someone with a split personality. She will sell herself outside the house as somebody she is not, which may explain why she has not even told her closet friends of such a huge life changing decision.
cilzuen - you make some very valid points that all make perfect sense. She is in crisis but doesn't know it; she is contradictory, lost and confused; a desire to escape but has done nothing to move out; finished with the marriage but wears her wedding ring; she is polite, kind, in some ways loving, but in other ways, rebellious and childlike with her interactions.
Her facial expressions describe which version of my wife I'm looking at. The adult wife has relaxed, peaceful facial features; the child version has tight, scrunched up features which makes her look old, tired and stressed. It all fits; I feel for her and what she doesn't know she is going through.
Some of the recommended reading articles, describe the situation perfectly. Its sobering to read them and see how it all pieces together; I'm not sure to what extent her childhood was traumatic but I do know she had issues in her teenage years.
I'm getting a life, travelling, meeting people, looking after my kids, enjoying my job which I thoroughly enjoy; I miss my wife, but she is not in a good place right now and I have to accept she is gone - at least for now. I know I'm going to be ok. Thanks everyone; your support is overwhelming.
