V, thank you! i read your responses a few times over the last few days to keep myself strong. It is so hard to have faith and keep DBing, so anything to hold on to makes all the difference.
Nicole, it may have happened that WAH was in depression during my pregnancy and never opened up to me and I did not get it either, so he decided I was self engrossed and went on a downward spiral. While there has been no indication of A, I have been told multiple times the phone secrecy is a big red flag. I maybe in denial here and too trusting based on how he has been in the past but here are a few more red flags that I may have not mentioned before. - Although he had mostly decided and started shutting down on me about a month before, he did take a business trip to this specific place and as soon as he returned BDd. Yes, yes I know, I am a fool and more. I was also 9 week post partum then. - the day of BD he also said he would like to move there because he met some of his old school buddies and had the best time that he has had in a long time - He used to dislike this place before, I have always wanted to move here but now his version is he chose this specific place because we could both transfer offices with same job to this location and also lay behold I have been wanting to move here. - His phone actions indicate messaging not just browsing and as unsocial as he is now other than talking to his just Dd friend, I do not think this much communication can happen with just his friend. So while I continue being in denial giving benefit of doubt to the person he was, I have slowly come to realize it might be an EA and maybe he wants D to make it PA. But what kind of woman would want to get involved with a man who has D3 and another one that was just born? Either way, time will tell, if he moves leaving the children behind it will speak volumes. I have no proof no intel and no way of getting any. I have to be in a place where I dont give a duck either. I have been reading up a lot about MLC, although H is not even 35 there are a LOT of things that I can identify with is behavior. In a later post I am going to list all of his bizarre behaviors so someone who has MLC experience can hopefully tell me if he is an early MLC candidate.
