Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

[mtb1981]

I want to ask her for help also. For example we eat a vegan diet which can be difficult. I have camp this week and get pizza for the kids. Would be a lot easier to ask W to drop me lunch since she is ten min from camp and there is a playground for D3 to play at. I guess I just need to handle everything on my own. Even though I pay for her life not have any expectations or expect anything in return.

Took D3 to team pool party after tournament today. Mentioned I was starving expected W to include me in dinner but didnt ask... should of just said hey can you make me dinner too... we always have had miscommunication from assumption. Need to continue to work on communication and asking to get my needs met (NMMNG). Fun time for D3 but I am spent... heading into camp week just feeling ground down. Still more work to do tonight.

You definitely do not need to be asking your W for any "help" right now. Pack your own lunch and make your own dinner. That is pursuit in my opinion. Besides, you need to be focusing on living your life without her. Focus more on what you can do for yourself, not what she could possibly do for you. I can guarantee you that 1 of 2 things will happen in the future. You will either save your marriage or end up divorced. If it's the latter, you will be much better off being independent and focusing on yourself now. It will make the whole process easier bevause you are already where you need to be. If it's the former, it will most likely be because you focused on yourself, became independent, and became a man only a fool would leave...