Vanilla can you tell me does this bring back W to want to R?
it increases stress and confusion. This escalates stress. It increases inertia.
Does it make W more firm in her stance to D?
No idea. Except that it increases confusion and stress. It is more likely to ensure that W is confused and not making any choices.
I know you say you cannot guilt a WW/WAW but does the guilt eventually get to them.
Please do not treat a WAW as a WW. A WW has cognitive dissonance and their body holds the guilt in it. In order to resolve the dissonance they usually blame and put the sense of it outside themselves. You made me drop my knickers for OM because......
A WAW has usually thought about walking away for a long time and knows about guilt. They consider it the price to pay.
How do they cope with all this added amount of stree?
They hold it in and it tells on the body.
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The trouble is that you want this to make W guilty so she will R. Drop that. It's not good. Your son may be the one who suffers if he thinks that is what you want.
You can chose to let go. Guilt isn't going to be good in your sitch. There is enough of it.
Concentrate on you. Drop the can I make W so guilty she will R.
That's controlling and is likely driving W further away.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
