This is reality kicking in for her! There has to be an experience of loss for them to have a change of heart and see what they have done, and it may lead to recon, but not always. With you being out of the picture and NC, she is sitting with herself and all what she's done.
This is a good sign that you are doing things right. Not that it will lead to recon, but that she's now realizing the realities of her path and she has to contend with that on her own alone. What she does with it, time will tell. So, don't backslide and just keep moving forward for yourself.
