Thanks for your insight Gerda;

The 2016 version of my wife was a warm, loving, sensual, affectionate and incredibly family orientated woman, who publicly acknowledged via friends and social media what a great husband she had.

The 2018 version cares about nobody but herself; is withdrawn on every level and is seeking separation and divorce to be by herself, destroying her family in the process. She rewrites the history of the marriage to justify her actions.

I am the sole cause of her unhappiness. In her mind she has to leave.

I understand what ciluzen is getting at, but my wife is not the person I married.