I'm guessing that my part in the downfall of the M would be that I was a Nice Guy...Alot of the things in the book, I did subconsciously without being aware of...Now that I'm aware, I'm working toward bettering that part of myself..
I am so glad to hear that you read the book. Your biggest tests will be in your relationships, and more especially intimate relationships.
A W can get so tired of her H leaving all decision making up to her. Sometimes, she'd like for him to decide where they will go for dinner. KWIM? It's not that she doesn't want to be the one to decide where they will go for dinner, but she gets so sick of his passive attitude. She wants a man who is decisive. Passivity is not attractive in a man. Passivity is not showing the woman what a good person he is. Rather, it shows her his lack of confidence and inability to take charge.
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We've now had No Contact for almost a week and everyone is right, it feels so counter-intuitive to what my mind/heart are telling me to do.
Good job! I'm sure it must feel counterintuitive, but stick with it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
