Making New Lives

[EyeTie]

Juju, reminds me of a gal I went out with after my exw and I split up. This girl and I went out on a few dates, had fun together and she was dying to go up to these ice caves for a night. It's a drive, so we were going to just get a hotel room when we got there and drive back the next day. It was a little too soon to really do a trip like this, we were still at the getting to know you stage in our relationship. I figured having 4 or 5 hours in the car could be a great time to get to know one another better...I was wrong. By the time we got to the hotel, I wanted to run. She was very opinionated on everything that you could be. Gone was the quiet shy girl that I had found endearing and instead I was with a person who was essentially all the hosts of the View rolled into one.

I spent that day, night and car ride home in shock. I think she sensed it wasn't a good fit either, we talked a few times after we got back but drifted apart.

To me, what happens often, especially when people are getting out of a long term relationship without their say, we settle. Or we try to fluff up whomever comes around because we do not know how to be alone. It is a scary feeling to be single when you don't want to be. Frankly, I have been there. It's like we have a void that we are trying to fill and the only way we know how is to put someone else into that void, regardless of compatibility. Either way, sorry to hear about it. Hope you are doing well otherwise.