He's actually been respectful of my wishes to slow his roll. I was worried at first that he might be too beta male for me but actually I don't think that's it. He's in sales and he's definitely trying to sell me on him.
I think he's a good man who loved his wife and family and was out of his depth in terms of dealing with her alcoholism . He was an only child orphaned at 18 and family was really important to him. He tried to keep things together and provide a good childhood for his three girls.
True, he's enthralled with me but what's not to like? Finding a woman my age who is smart, sexy, funny, adventurous, youthful, financially stable and responsible with no addictions DOES kinda make me all that and a bag of chips - especially for a smart guy looking for an intellectual equal . (If you're intimidated by a smart woman I'm definitely not for you, but nerdy men love me). True I have some baggage with my kids and mom but that hasn't been an issue yet with men I've dated, only three of whom had kids themselves.
As for me liking more of a challenge - that hasn't exactly worked well for me in my life, leading me to pursue Avoidant and unavailable men. I'm ok with being adored by a man who is actually available for a relationship. I'm just still cautious because that's how I ended up missing the red flags about crazy exBF, so I'm taking my time.
