I agree with Love, that it seems like you are still right there for her (trust me, I struggle in this as well!) and she knows it. I would take D to the beach without inviting her. She is talking to OM. I wouldnt be doing anything with her so long as that is going on.
In terms of seeing other women, that seems pretty fraught. From what you write it doesnt seem like you have completely emotionally detached from this relationship. Doesnt that need to be a first step before starting a new one?
Hang in there. We are pulling for you.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
