Hi Arsh, how is your weekend going? I've been thinking about your situation and how what happened with your husband resembles what happened with mine in some ways. In both cases our husbands say they were unhappy, blamed it on us, and chose to leave their families. You know, I was unhappy with my husband when our daughter was born too, but I didn't leave. My husband didn't help out, he did a lot of selfish things, and he wasn't empathetic. I was still committed to being married. And even my husband stuck around unhappy until he found a girlfriend in two cases. I don't know, but it just seems to me that something triggered your husband to leave. You say he couldn't be having an affair but he was on his phone a lot when he first asked for a divorce. Could he have been browsing dating sites and found someone he was talking to online and who he wanted to meet? Is there ever a time when he went out alone for even a day, or took a business trip out of town? He may have met someone and suddenly felt alive and connected. Also why does he want to move out of state to the particular city where he wants to go? Are you sure he didn't meet someone who lives there?
It doesn't make any difference right now because it sounds like the divorce will happen regardless, but if your husband is doing this because he met someone, or there's someone out there he's waiting to date, then it may just be a matter of time until that doesn't work out and then what? He would likely come back to you.
I just can't think of why else someone in your culture would do this. If you were really abusive and treated him with such cruelty and harmed him then he may be trying to escape, but everything you've written here indicates you're not like that.
Anyway my husband left twice and had a girlfriend each time and now I think it may not have worked out with the last girlfriend and my husband still didn't come back, so I guess if they're happy enough single they still won't return, but it seems like there's something that caused your husband to walk away. I hope he learns a valuable lesson and comes back to you begging for forgiveness. I hope you'll come back to this forum and let us know if that happens someday!
