Thanks for the input everybody. You are all right. Sticking to my boundary of text only communication. And without a doubt there was some sort of ulterior motive. She never tried to contact me after that, so whatever it was apparently was not too important...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Most likely. If not money, something else she can use to her advantage to get what she needs. Usually under the guise of it being about the kids. Like needing their birth certificates so she can say she has 3 kids to get financial assistance with her rent, food stamps, etc...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Been feeling kind of down today, and I know why. Tomorrow will be our 10 year anniversary. Kind of hard to not think about. Just gonna do my best to keep busy and not dwell on it. Taking the kids to church in the morning and then to have lunch with my parents at their parish's church picnic. Play some games with the kids and win some trinkets and prizes. Then we were invited to go to my friend's son's birthday party that evening. So I will have plenty to do to keep busy. It still [censored] though. A day that used to be so special is now just flat out depressing and meaningless...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Yesterday went as planned. Did the church picnic thing and went to the birthday party. Kids had a blast. manaeged to really not think about W or the anniversary until later that night when I got a Twitter notification on my phone. I haven't used Twitter for ages, and the notification was for W liking a picture of our youngest son I had posted a long time ago. I found this to be odd bevause W was never on Twitter much. I made the mistake of looking at her profile and saw that she had recently posted that night tagging OM in her tweet. It did make me laugh a bit though because it was a retweet from a professional WWE wrestler. OM likes to watch wrestling. W and I always joked around and made fun of people that liked wrestling, but apparently now she's a fan. LOL. I guess it's kind of like love bombing. I've noticed since this all began, she started being interested in the things he was. Things she used to not care one bit about. Looking back, it was the same when she met me. From movies to music to food. Whatever I liked, were all of a sudden her favorite things too. Oh well... I deactivated my Twitter account. I had already blocked her from any other social media, I just forgot about Twitter because I quit using it...
Today my GAL is more of TCB (Taking Care of Business). Need to schedule dentist appts. and physicals for the kids. Also have a wisdom tooth that started coming in a couple of days ago that is causing me issues, so I'm gonna have to deal with that too. Lastly, I think it would be beneficial to get the middle 2 kids (8 and 9 years old) set up with some counseling. I've noticed some behavioral changes since this whole sitch got into full swing. Especially with D9. Some days she has a horrible attitude. When I try to discuss it with her she gets upset and goes off to her room to pout or cry. Most of the time when I go in there to talk to her, she ends up telling me she misses her mom. Yesterday she broke down, and when I asked her why she said it was because the day before when she was at her friend's birthday party, all of the other girls' moms picked them up. She was the only one whose mom didn't pick her up. I do my best to explain to her that we all have each other and she's lucky to have a dad and brothers that love her so much. The other GAL I have today is that I am taking D9 to the mall to get her nails done. Poor girl is surrounded by guys all day. I figured we could do something "girly" together to cheer her up...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Your wife is trying to get your attention and hurt you by liking an old picture. She wanted you to see her with OM. So don't let it get to you.
Focus on your little girl and helping her out.
Has your W filed for divorce? I'd screenshot that stuff so the kids can see and understand one day.
I'm aware she was doing this on purpose to try to get my attention. Highly unlikely it was a coincidence that she did this on our 10 year anniversary using a social media platform (the only one I hadn't blocked her from) that she hasn't used for close to a year...
W did not file, but I did about a month ago. I felt I had to for the protection of myself. Her big thing was always coming over with the police and trying to take things from the house and just vausing a scene in general. Legally, I could not prevent her from coming over to the marital home. The only way to keep her away was to file and get an injunction for temporary posession of the house. Now she has no legal right to be here. Before that, she had broken in and was stealing things from the house. My hands were tied and there was nothing I could do. One time when she brought the police over, the dumb cop announced that she could bust out a window, get in, and take everything and there would be nothing I could do about it. I was like, "Thanks a lot, buddy! Way to give her ideas!". You should have seen her eyes light up when she heard him say that. Several times after that, she had threatened to break a window to get in. Now if she doe, she gets charged with B&E. Also, needed to protect myself financially. She has horrible spending habits and is extremely hard up for money. I've had a few letters show up at the house that I could tell were from requests for credit cards. I don't want to be on the hook for a bunch of debt she incurs during this whole ordeal....
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Awesome plan. I have similar plans with S3 tonight. I hadnt seen him in over a week, i missed him so much.
MTB, you have been a role model for me. I look to your posts to see what I SHOULD be doing. I have learned a lot from you, even as we have gone down this road at the same time.
Thankfuly, i think I am finally catching up to you Bud.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
