Hi Lady V, you are strong, very strong, you also have had to live through an unbelievably hard , abusive situation which , of course , tested that strength and proberbly put doubts about your strength in your own mind.
Mindfullness is the ultimate goal i believe and while we all believe we are strong, those that feel the need to say it are doing so for themselves and maybe not in a negative way but maybe more in a self enforcing way.
As I have said before , my own faults / weaknesses are plenty but that doesn't preclude me from observing others faults / issues.
There was a poster, Ghost, who would not self examine or see his situation for what is was for such a long time that he seemed a lost hope but slowly , very slowly he started to look at himself and he was making great strides last time he posted. I see others on here that won't look at themselves or they want to keep heading down cheeseless tunnels.
I think Petterson ( maybe Socrates ) said, 'the unexamined life is not worth living ' and for those that find themselves here , this is so true. Some of us ( myself included ) where comfortable in our M and were shocked when we were faced with our partners behaviour but on reflection, is it ever 100% the WAS fault ? When we perceive ourselves as a good partner , we may well be but was good, enough ?
Anyway , 2 more points , i dont think I could post about strength without mentioning Sotto , who i know sometimes believed she didnt have strength but showed alot on here what true strength is and secondly yourself, your strength is evident is every post about yourself and to others. You are lucky that you carried your Pas genes but also your own fortitude in very , very tough cricumstances came from a deep strength of character. Thank you for been a tower of strength and support to so many on here and to myself personally. Your a true lady in every sense of the word.
