Thanks again for you support and encouraging words;
My wife has again spelt it out that she wants divorce and we are no longer a family;
I just simply don't understand it; some of the issues she raises, speaks volumes of poor communication and a lack of communicating things that have annoyed her over the years that were never mentioned at the time.
She states that she feels weighed down by marriage and being in a relationship. She has changed from life events that have been thrown at her over the years and being in a relationship with me is no longer what she wants. She is no longer in love and doesn't feel the same about me like she used to. The marriage should therefore end; it feels like such a waste; she seems to be of a negative mindset and nothing is going to change her mind.
I am now letting go and letting her go down her chosen path; its very hard though; today she initiated a casual 45min conversation in the kitchen whilst cooking dinner telling me all about her day, her friends, her issues at work and her schedules for the coming weeks. It was like old times and the routine conversation of an interacting, happily married couple. I listened, didn't interrupt, didn't offer solutions, maintained good eye contact and it felt like there could be hope...?
Surely someone in the throws of initiating a divorce would not want anything to do with their awful spouse? I also note she hasn't removed her wedding ring? Its incredibly frustrating. Is there hope?
I'm torn between hope and letting go. Its tough...I like the lighthouse story....thanks again people.
