Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

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So W asked if I wanted to get daughter to bed after dinner tonight.
I said sure I will miss her since I am working the next 6 days.
So I played with daughter for about an hour and got her to bed.
Then talked for a few minutes in w bedroom. Of course being a guy I am trying not to think about her legs and other things I would like to do in the bedroom. We shared a laugh or two. I was ready to leave and she had said earlier she was tired so we went downstairs.
She packed some things I could use for my place I walked our dog. Her place has some sketchy neighbors I feel bad she is living there but it is still $1325/mo pliable utilities. And it is her choice we hadnt a 4000 sq ft home in the suburbs.
We had a long hug I of course as a hopeless romantic want to lift her chin kiss her hard pick her up like I did 8 years ago when we started dating.
But she is so fragile she just kind of crumpled into my arms. We said we miss each other. She said once I am not working as much she wants to hang out and laugh and watch a movie together.
And that being seriously is what gives her anxiety. I feel like if things progress she is going to need to get help for her anxiety. I know it is probably a good step but it feels like nothing and frustrating. I plan on not reaching out except about our daughter.