How do I put this? I suppose over time everything decays like an apple left in the sun eventually it goes rotten, if we want to keep the apple from going off a little longer we put it in a fridge.
This is an action that stops the decaying effects. A R is the same, over time we lose sight of what's important and the R suffers, we need action and hard work to keep the R alive and fresh. Again as marriage progresses the R can turn stale and so it's the same for an A, there is no difference UNLESS someone learns to work on keeping the R in good order or even better BOTH working to keep it good.
Obviously WW or WH can't understand this or they wouldn't have gone out of their M to have an A SO the process or the decaying will still apply to the star crossed lovers.
We have an advantage in that being here gives us a plan or principles to follow to aid in helping us get to a better place in our lives that has nothing to do with the waywards.
We work on us learn how to stop the rot and move on without them, if they come back fine if not we've learnt valuable tools for our next R.
Re-read DR look at where you need to improve (we all need to improve) and GAL. Stop thinking about the A and use the headspace for having fun with D3 and new activities.
She gonna do what she's gonna do so step away and believe in the process.
Take care.
Mark
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
