JS, one of Sandi's rules is to not plan a vaca. AS is more experienced at this so I would follow his advice. If I won a short vaca right now, the way WAH is, a trip is not going to change his mind. I would find the couple I love and respect the most and offer it to them as a gift for all the things they have done for me and I havent thanked enough. Could be your parents, other family or friends, we all know we have those in our lives.
I completely agree with you that under normal circumstances planning a weekend trip or anything of the sort is pursuit and pressure and NOT something we would suggest doing. But strange things happen and JS is in a really unusual spot since it was a prize he was given and he's got to be the one to use it. He is kind of obligated to use it since it's through his boss in fact.
JS, I think you handled it great but to Arsh's point if she does decide to go then just have zero expectations because it's not likely to change anything. Try and treat her like a friendly neighbor and just enjoy it as best you can.
