Thanks AnotherBystander, I didn't mean to say the guilt remarks to him but I was frazzled and tired and just angry that he is stressed and can run off to his own apartment leaving me alone to care for the pets, the house and yardwork, some bills, our son, etc. I try not to do that now.
Of course you are! That's one of the benefits of this forum, feel free to vent it all out here and then just show him a happy, content you.
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It just makes no sense with him because in the beginning he was showing me how to do all this home repair stuff on my own so I'd know what to do without him, yet now when I tell him that I fixed the hot water heater he was taken aback and seemed a little bummed that I did it on my own without calling him.
It DOES make sense! He doesn't think he wants you, but at the same time he wants you sitting in reserve as Plan B, rushing to him whenever you need something, begging him to come back, desperate to see him and call him and text him. When you detach and GAL and start being more independent then it WORRIES him. It makes him wonder what you are up to, why you don't NEED him like he thought you would. Eventually he will start to think he may lose you and he'll start pursuing you. But if you respond to the pursuit he will just shut down again, confident his Plan B is still secure. DON'T BE PLAN B!!!!
