Hello, I'm new here. :)

[Jlh]

Thanks AnotherBystander, I didn't mean to say the guilt remarks to him but I was frazzled and tired and just angry that he is stressed and can run off to his own apartment leaving me alone to care for the pets, the house and yardwork, some bills, our son, etc. I try not to do that now.

It just makes no sense with him because in the beginning he was showing me how to do all this home repair stuff on my own so I'd know what to do without him, yet now when I tell him that I fixed the hot water heater he was taken aback and seemed a little bummed that I did it on my own without calling him. He's the one who showed me how to do it alone. I keep him in the know on home repair like that since we are still married and have the house together. It's just strange how he first wants off of all of these bill accounts we share, gets upset when he sees that I can do things on my own. Personally I love home repair and DIY so it's kind of fun for me to do these things. I try not to overthink why he's surprised and taken aback. Its like he wants to be there to do this stuff. (shrugs)