Patience & DB / Detach or Divorce

[Parkema]

Hi Did,

I've been reading a few of your most recent posts and is typical fodder for us LBS! There are so many on here who have traveled the road your on and loads you can learn from and AS is the bus driver...

I not so much preach process but its so true, you need to believe in the cycle of a R do the principles mentioned in DR and concentrate on you and your D3.
Control is such a hard concept to understand when faced with an A but eventually you'll understand your wasting so much time on something you cant control.

Your post mentions patience and is so relevant with A's and times another, time is powerful and destructive to R's if you don't understand its affects!
I want to put some hope in here - A's usually end, statistically they are bound to fail but don't let that affect YOU detach from her and allow her to continue her journey whilst you create a better life by GAL'ing like mad.

Detach but don't isolate.
Respond but don't initiate.
Remain the 3 C's in her presence cool, calm and classy.
Show a confidence and smile all the time especially around her.< contagious!

GAL'ing is key to survive the time needed for her to go through the process YOU MUST DO THIS. You will realise that IF she tries to make a go of the A your GAL'ing will put you in a position where you just wont care.

Get to work.

Mark.