Rather than panic and stress, and then try and put yourself on a more constructive path.
focus22,
Yes, I like what you said.
There are some things we can control and a lot of things we can't control. I think we often get caught in a cycle of worry and dread, wishing certain things hadn't happened and wanting other things to happen. But, that's not a very useful or adaptive attitude. You've got to embrace what you have in front of you and make the best of it. So yes, I agree with your statement,'what opportunities does this throw up for me'.
My divorce was terrible, but at the same time it was an opportunity for some much needed personal growth.
