My H was horribly abusive to me and everyone tried to tell me that and I just wouldnt see it.
i am so glad you said that... i have followed your situation this time around, and offered my two cents here and there... i came to a place where i could no longer offer my two cents because you and maybe one or two others would not take it for what it's worth--two cents... and honestly, i felt real anxiety reading your posts about your situation and reading your responses to those trying to help you...
during your current situation, i have come to regard your H as a horrible, awful person... and really, you do not need to hear that from me... he is your H and the father of your children... but reading your thread from several years ago, i now see your H as even more awful and horrible... he is not healthy, and now neither are you... and i know you think your children are not touched by your dysfunction, but they are... you really can't compartmentalize how your H treats you and his marriage, and how he treats his children... it all connects somehow... you cannot see it... but you will, eventually...
--artista--who is still hoping you will choose a healthy you, sooner rather than letting one more day go by, because do you really want to be here, in this same situation 9 years from now? that is what you are looking at... mis dos centavos... adelante...
