I hear how he yells and complains about his daughter. And i think,"oh god. I do the same stuff she does" (Forget to water plants, forget my laundry in the dryer) and then i think, i dont want my son to be constantly criticized. He already gets into enough trouble at school as it is.
He just always seems angry.
I think you have your answer then. He doesn't sound like a good match. Don't let your eagerness to be part of a "family" make you lose sight of whether this guy is a good match for you.
I like to call dating a detective job. It's our job to find out about this person and see if they really are right for us. (Now bear in mind, I blew that job with my last boyfriend, but he was a pretty smooth liar).
For instance - I've just started dating a new guy. He SEEMS nice and very sweet. But I am still reserving judgment until I learn more about him. I can already see he has some mild OCD issues very similar to exBF (like getting me a napkin when I'm eating potato chips - not a big deal but a sign of HIS discomfort with my fingers being greasy, not mine). I've also seen some mild evidence of him being bothered by other drivers - could that signal an underlying tendency towards irritability that just isn't expressing itself towards me yet in the honeymoon period? These are minor things but I'm definitely keeping my antennae up until I can learn more about his character (AND his finances - at 62 it's pretty important to me that a man be able to live within his means and fund his own expenses in retirement. I'm not saying a guy has to be rich - just able to live happily within what he's got and not be a drain on my finances in any way. This guy was a good earner in the past but I think a bit of a spender too, so it remains to be seen if he will be financially stable and responsible about retirement. )
