Thanks guys for all the advice, I do really appreciate it..
My wife has actually went dark: defriended all my family and friends from facebook and wants to distance herself from me so she can move on with her life. In theory, this should make it easier for me to have no contact and work on myself...It really seems like this has closed the door on any R of our marriage and will force me to move on...I moved about 30 minutes away and have very little contact with our mutual friends so she'll have no real idea of how good I'm doing so alot of the DB'ing that I've been working so hard on won't have much impact...I know I should be making these changes for myself but the whole purpose of DB was to R our marriage...I really would have liked to have an adult conversation with her about what went wrong in our M so I could at least have a focus of what to work on for future R but she never took me up on my offer for this discussion and instead has just ran away and cut herself off from everything we shared the last 12 years...
Oh, as far as the A that turned out to be a 1-night-stand, which really doesn't matter anymore because she is beyond wayward with dating new people and living the single lifestyle with her new divorced best friends...It is so sad that she chose this path...
